“Slow down and have a positive thought rather than a negative one, with better outcome,” said Michelle Boos-Stone with the Five Elements Consulting Group, guest speaker during the recent Los Alamitos Chamber of Commerce’s Breakfast held at Maderas Steakhouse, 3642 Katella Ave., in Los Alamitos.
“Take baby steps; try it; we have expectations of people, but we can choose to let it go and not give it any energy,” said Boos-Stone. “I teach people how to be better people at the grassroots; I love working with people and teaching them how to take baby steps, which makes a huge difference.”
Some of her presentation included that, “being stupid” is way easier than making a conscious choice to take a more positive action; slowing down one’s thinking and asking one’s-self a question, gives people a way better outcome.
Boos-Stone gave examples of scenarios that everyone goes through, such as, what happened, a Converse thought, and then a Different and more positive action to take.
The new Model includes: something happens and we have an immediate thought about the incident. We can say, “Who cares and let it go,” or, have a converse thought. In letting it go, we can create a different story such as, what else or what if.
“Things we can do: We have a thought and choose not to react; it’s just a thought; doesn’t mean it’s a fact; it doesn’t mean it’s the truth.”
“We can reclaim over a negative thought with a Converse thought before it becomes a stupid action; it allows us the space to make a more positive action and allows us to let go of our upset churn,” said Boos-Stone.
She explained that every day our brain processes 70,000 thoughts and people are biologically wired to preserve themselves by thinking negatively such as, will it hurt me or will it eat me alive?
She went on to say that researchers have found there are more negative words in our language than positive words, but in reality, we only have control over three things and that is, “What we say, what we do and how we react to what happens to us,” and her plan is to shift one’s thought distortions to a more positive outcome.
